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Family law proceeding of divorce can emotionally affect kids

Children, understandably, are fragile and may not handle traumatic situations as adults can. They simply have not had as much life experience and are still developing mentally and emotionally. This is why the family proceeding of divorce in New York can be a troubling part of their lives if not handled wisely. Avoiding conflict is essential for having kids go through their parents' divorce unscathed and optimistic about the future.

Divorce can disrupt a child's life. After all, children have to adjust to living with one parent instead of two. However, if the parents are feuding, this only adds to the problem. Kids can end up having dysfunctional childhoods simply because they feel burdened by their parents' behavior and yearn for the stability required for children to feel safe.

Social media use may cause divorce, research shows

Many people in New York find social media addicting. They love the idea of connecting with friends and family members far and wide and sharing their lives with the world. However, social media in some cases can actually destroy relationships, rather than build them up. In particular, some say that using social networking services such as Twitter can actually cause divorce.

The recent research found that people who are active on Twitter are more likely to experience issues with their partners as a result of what they post on the website. These conflicts may lead to both physical and emotional cheating, which subsequently can lead to the dissolution of a marriage. Reportedly, people who are active on Facebook experience these problems, too.

Being older doesn't mean you're in a stronger marriage

It's probably a common assumption among most people that if we see an older couple out and about, we think that they've been married a long time and will continue to stay married. However, first impressions aren't always accurate. In fact, a lot of the data floating around about the divorce rate might actually be incorrect, and not accurately portray the rate at which older people are going through a divorce.

Many older people who are married are not on their first marriage. Some are on their second, and even third marriage. These folks are getting divorced at rates much higher than people their age from previous generations.

Finding legal advice can be a key to a successful adoption

There are many different family law issues that Buffalo-area residents might run into in the course of their lives. While issues of child custody or child support are the ones most people might think of when it comes to the intersection of family law and children, there is another significant one: adoption. This can be a process fraught with delays, heartache and expenses -- and more and more families seem to be experiencing disappointment when it comes to international adoptions.

There have been many great kids adopted by American families from around the world, of course. Some of these adoptions were relatively simple, with foreign governments happy to place orphans with families who could provide for them in a way that wouldn't be possible in the kids' home country. Recently, however, some parents have found that this process has been made more difficult by a lack of assistance on all sides.

Wedding sparks protests over loophole in Orthodox Jewish law

Many Buffalo residents likely are familiar with cases that have gotten larger and larger amounts of publicity in New York in recent years. Under the laws of Orthodox Judaism, the husband alone is able to grant a divorce, even if a civil divorce has been finalized. Without this "get," as it is known, a woman is unable under Jewish law to remarry. A rabbi in New Jersey was hit last year with federal charges for what they say was a scheme to kidnap and assault husbands who did not want to give their wives a get, in a case that garnered national attention.

Now, a man who has refused his wife in New York a get has gotten remarried in Nevada. According to people close to the story, the man received special permission from 100 rabbis to remarry, which then allows him to do so, under Jewish law. Protesters criticized the man for practicing bigamy, as well as essentially holding his wife hostage in a marriage that no longer legally exists as far as the government is concerned.

Throwing money at marital problems may not help the situation

New York couples who have built their marriages over a period of several years or decades are often unwilling to let that work go for naught. To many people, divorce is simply unpalatable -- akin to giving up on something, rather than trying to make it work. As a result, many folks will go to extreme, and sometimes expensive, steps to try to rekindle a feeling of togetherness.

One such exercise may be to renovate the family home. Setting out together on a big undertaking can line people up on a united front, putting their energy into a project that will benefit the common good of the family. However, the idea of undertaking such an endeavour can be a double-edged sword.

Military divorces might account for high rate near Fort Drum

It's no secret that being in the military is one of the most stressful occupations New Yorkers can undertake. It can be extremely hard on family life; trying to maintain a regular relationship with a spouse and children can be almost impossible when a soldier is deployed overseas.

It may very well be that military divorces are contributing to the high divorce rate in Jefferson County, New York. Among all of the state's counties, only New York County -- Manhattan -- has a higher per capita divorce rate than Jefferson County.

Fake bankruptcy leads to big judgement against ex-husband

One of the possible results of a divorce is one party or the other being required to pay some kind of periodic -- sometimes permanent -- spousal support. It would be difficult to find anyone in New York, male or female, who actually enjoys having to pay alimony to a former wife or husband. However, when the terms of a divorce settlement dictate that it be done, then the payments are obligatory.

Some people, though will go to great lengths to avoid having to pay alimony -- not all of them legal. In one particularly outrageous case from California, a man has been convicted of fraud and money laundering in an attempt to avoid paying child support and spousal support, and faces nearly 18 years behind bars. He was also ordered to pay back the amount he still owes the family -- and pay a fine of $500,000.

Working together after divorcing can be done, with good planning

Many successful entrepreneurs in the Buffalo area make their businesses a family affair. Husbands and wives work together, often building a successful small business from the ground up. The stability of that business can be threatened, however, when a couple's business relationship outlives their personal one.

Divorce, by definition, is a life-changing event for any couple, but the marriage dissolution can be even more impactful if it has the potential to affect work life as well as life at home. Fortunately, a business can survive a divorce -- but it takes a certain amount of critical thinking to make it work.

When exes won't pay up after a divorce, these documents can help

After a Buffalo area divorce is finalized, it's normal to breathe a sigh of relief. The process was grueling and stressful, and many tears were probably shed. Now that all the terms have been laid out and the final judgment stamped by a judge, you can get on with your life. Right?

Unfortunately, the answer is "not always." According to U.S. Census data, most ex-husbands fail to honor the financial points of their divorce settlements, including spousal support. (While data was not available for ex-wives, they can certainly be capable of alimony noncompliance). Some divorce attorneys will suggest creating a Qualified Domestic Relations Order to help resolve this. A QDRO is a court order that can help to assure that you get your ordered share of your ex's retirement plan benefits and avoid interruptions in spousal support payments.

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Keith B. Schulefand, ESQ | No Fault Divorce

Keith B. Schulefand, ESQ | No Fault Divorce


Keith B. Schulefand, ESQ.
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